Saturday, December 12, 2009

The Divorce Process


As you may be aware, I am winding my way through the divorce process. Though my attorney does not want me discussing details, it remains a part of my life at this time. My father gave me a Johnny Mandel songbook years ago, with this particular song in it, in an attempt to help me sort through my feelings. It is a lovely song. So I dedicate this to all who have gone through a difficult break-up. Divorce is painful, no matter what the reason.

39 comments:

Nickie Goomba said...

It's a blessing to have a smart Dad.

WoFat said...

Hang in there, kid.

Bungalow Bill said...

I have exposed on my blog that my wife and I have gone through some huge problems lately--problems that landed me in a place that I never thought I would end up in. (I have never attempted to hurt my wife.)

Going through the tough times, it does seem like it would be worse ending things. I am sorry you have to go through this.

Войска ПВО said...

Madame,

I too have endured that dull pain; the most sadness comes from the realization that the sweet hopes and dreams of the former years come crashing to earth.

But, there's always a sunrise after the night and a morning full of promise.

You will survive with friends and family. I hope you are as fortunate as I was: I met the love of my life, raised a new family, and have been with her for over a quarter of a century.

God bless you and keep you and your wonderful family.

~Voyska PVO

Snarky Basterd said...

I knew you were getting divorced but I didn't know it was because of THAT!

I hope you take him for everything he's worth ... and more.

Oh ... and, want me to beat his ass for you? I like punching cheaters and wife beaters, and I'd certainly defend your honor any day.

:^)

Teresa said...

Beautiful song! You have a wonderful dad! Dad knows best.

I am sorry that you are having to go through such a sad and turbulent time in your life. I have never gone through a divorce but I have been through some tough times in my life, and my heart goes out to you and your family during this tough patch in your life. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

The_Kid said...

You're doing the right thing of course.

I know you through your blog and your comments. You didn't deserve any of it. Anyone capable of violence in that situation will never be able to stop.

My 1st wife and I had some seriously bad times, most of it her screwing up to the point my brain was on fire, but it never occurred to me to hit her. (She never hit me either..) It took me too long but I finally walked.

Your best days are ahead I have no doubt.

I will keep a good thought that things work out well for you and your children.

beachgirl said...

You're always in my thoughts and prayers. We miss you on the Den! If you have a minute, drop by and say hello.

Michele said...

There is never anything anyone can say that is comforting enough or can take away the pain of everything you and your children and extended family are going through. My thoughts are with you, and I wish you the very, very best. You are a fabulous, strong person, and you will get through this!

-The Reaganite Republican- said...

Prayers for you Opus, across the miles...

James

Red said...

God love you Opus. I miss your comments over at Corndog. I'm sorry you're dealing with this kind of crap at this time of year (like there's any better time yet still...) My prayers for you and your kiddos.

Just a conservative girl said...

After what your husband did, if he had any sense he would run away with his tail between his legs. But, I guess that is not the style of men like that.

I hope all continues to go well. You have your babies, they will keep you busy and give you the love that you need. Eventually you will find someone else who will treat you with the respect and the love that you deserve. Don't every forget that you do deserve it.

Opus #6 said...

Nickie, Welcome back! I missed you.

Opus #6 said...

Thanks, Wo. It helps to be here chatting with you-all.

Opus #6 said...

Bill, glad to hear that you and your wife are hanging in there. Hugs and prayers to you two.

Opus #6 said...

Voyska, the loss of the dream is the worst part, I agree. So sad. Thanks for your support.

Opus #6 said...

Snarky, thanks, darlin'. Not necessary. :-)

Opus #6 said...

Teresa, you are so sweet and you always know the right things to say. Thanks so much.

Opus #6 said...

Kid, thanks so much. I also hold onto positive feelings about the future.

Opus #6 said...

Cindy, thanks so much for dropping by. Yes, I DO need to swing by the Den. I miss you gals. I have been very distracted here, as you can see.

Opus #6 said...

Michele, it is great to see you. Thanks so much for the support.

Opus #6 said...

James, thank you.

Opus #6 said...

Red, I need to get you back on blogroll. I have not been as diligent on my dashboard lately and only seem to hit the blogrolls.

Opus #6 said...

JACG, as usual, you hit the nail right on the head. A lady's feelings about herself usually lead her to choose one type of man over another. All women should feel that they are worth love and respect. I will keep that in mind.

Veronica Lee said...

I've always admired your strength and I know you'll survive this.

I'm keeping you in my prayers.

((hugs))

BTW, Happy Hanukkah to you!!




~Voyska PVO

Velcro said...

It is a painful process, you are right. The message to your kids about self-respect will pay dividends in the long run. God bless you!

Sick of the Idiots said...

You have such magnificent taste in music, Opie. Your dad sounds like a great man, to be so in touch with his daughter.

I am so sorry for what you have had to go through- I am right there with SB (actually I am closer than he is so I will be there faster) if you need me to be.... Because if he needs to hit someone again he can damn sure take a shot at me.... Though I doubt he would....


Hang in there....

Opus #6 said...

Veronica Lee, thank you so very much.

Opus #6 said...

Velcro, I pray that the kids will come through this all right.

Opus #6 said...

Sick of the Idiots, my dad really taught me to love music like this. He plays the piano, very well, I might add. In fact, the man on this video reminds me of him on the piano.

Lovin Ma Soldier said...

:( I missed this before now, I'm so sorry for your troubles and everything you have been and are going through. Many thoughts, hugs and prayers to you!

Amusing Bunni said...

Opus My Dear, I'm so sorry this is dragging on. You listen to your lawyer and hang in there. What a wonderful song, and so great of your father to give you the songbook.

I can't fathom what you are going thru, never been married, or having been abused by a boyfriend (pshysically) But I've noticed that bullies always pic on the sweetest, nicest people, and the smartest ones too. The have to prop up their inadequate egos someway. I know the heartaches you feel, that's for sure.

Just stay strong, you have so many friends pulling for you and praying for you. Also with the right lawyer, and solid evidence, which you certainly have, you can come out ahead and put this awful episode behind you! When all the trials and tribulations are done, we can celebrate and look forward to better days. I hope the New Year/Decade brings you much happiness and all you want and deserve in life. Write me anytime.
Luv ya, Bunni

Left Coast Rebel said...

Prayers in my heart today for you MA, I pray that you may perservere, heal and find peace and comfort.

Opus #6 said...

Lovin ma soldier, Much appreciated.

Opus #6 said...

Bunni, you are a sweet and true friend.

Opus #6 said...

LCR, thank you for the prayers.

Red said...

***HUGS*** double-dose style.

Red said...

***HUGS*** double-dose style.

Opus #6 said...

Red, thanks, thanks, for the double hugs. ;-)